Did you know that the people you spend the most time with affect your Success?
Speaker Jim Rohn famously said, “that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with”. This statement reminds me of the old saying “Birds of a feather flock together” and the saying, “Lay with dogs wake up with fleas”.
“We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with’, it is not just a saying, it’s the law of averages – math and physics, and recognised as a revolutionary awareness for those wanting to get ahead.
Your parents would have hoped that you spent more time with good wholesome friends, they were hoping ‘the law of averages’ would work and that those good friends you hung out with would rub off on you.
How The Law of Averages influence your Money Stress issues:
Are the 5 people you spend the most time with money stressed? Do they have bad money habits? How do they invest their money and time?
For some thinking about the five people you most associate with and the fact that they can influence your thoughts, decisions and actions could be a real challenge.
Are you worried or excited with this question?
Knowing the impact those you spend time with have on your overall life, who will you keep as your five? Do you need to seek out new associations and friendships perhaps?
In his book, ‘The 4 Hour Work Week’ , author Tim Ferriss discusses how he delves deeper into his top five people. He actually has a top five people for health, then a top five for emotions, finances and purpose etc.
Today I want you to undertake the same exercise and there is likely to be more sacrifices, just like last month, as you discover the associates you need to drop and those you need to seek out.
Who are the five people you spend most of your time with:
After answering these questions, will you keep or seek a new top five? Please keep writing until your mind and heart empties.
Summarise your preferred life:
What are your life aspirations?
Why achieving your life aspirations are important to you?
Who are your top five people you spend most your time with?
How do these five people support, contribute, encourage and inspire you to stay on track with your life goals?
Who you Keep will be obvious from the How question, if you need to Seek review your What and Why.
Next – as Tim Ferriss suggests you need to delve deeper:
HEALTH – What are your health aspirations?
Why being healthy is important to you?
Who are your top five healthy people you hang out with?
How do these five health-oriented people in your life, support, encourage and inspire you to stay on track with your health goals?
Who do you Keep or Seek?
EMOTIONS – What are your emotional aspirations?
Why (example; my emotional health keeps me happy stable and adaptable?)
Who (you know the drill)
Who do you Keep or Seek
FINANCES – What are your financial aspirations?
Who do you Keep or Seek
PURPOSE – What are your purpose aspirations?
Who do you Keep or Seek.
Discovered your top five?
By reflecting on the above and choosing the top five people who will become the wind beneath your wings across the various aspects of your life you will take flight.
The gains you never ever imagined possible?
- You will be surrounded by emotionally happy focused people.
- The drama is outside of your life, because the good people keep you accountable.
- Your life will be enriched with good people doing good things.
- You can focus on what’s important, your purpose and contribution to society.
- You’ll feel more confident and secure financially.
Modelling short term pain is a conscious choice for long term gain that’s sustainable and conducive to happiness. MAKE A PACT TO ACT and I assure you, your life will start heading in the right direction.
Zoe is the director of Zoe Slater Counselling and CEO Freedom Choice Academy. She studied at The Australian College of Applied Psychology, Sydney Campus and completed her Diploma of Counselling and Communication at the Brisbane Campus. Zoe is an Associate Member with the Queensland Counsellors Association Inc and a member with Australian Counsellors Association.