Have you heard the saying ‘Life happens whilst your making plans’? For me that means that life can change so quickly. And when someone dies all plans change in a heartbeat.
That’s what happened to me, someone dear has just died, my life and plans have just changed. So now I’m at the airport waiting for my flight to attend the funeral.
I start thinking about their death, how they died, their life before their death, the people who counted on them, our life without that person and how we are all connected.
I start to contemplate what I have spent my time on, the important things that matter, the time I have wasted on nonsense things and can never get back.
I found myself reflecting on the past, projecting into the future and what I’m doing right now. How grateful I have been or not, what are my deepest regrets and how quickly I adjusted my plan to fit in this important funeral and what is truly important in life. I have many wondering and pondering thoughts provoked by this death and particularly at this time of year.
I invite you to ponder and wonder your thoughts with me as I share my three most prevailing thoughts.
Please find a reflective quiet place that you can observe your pondering thoughts as you transfer them to paper, writing until your heart and mind empties, feeling quiet and content.
Here are my 3 most prevailing thoughts:
1. To be grateful for what I have and don’t hold back the expressions of gratitude
2. It highlights my regrets and the urgency to correct.
3. And it impresses on me to make sure my 2019 Big Plans are really dear to my heart and to not waste my time.
So take your time and ponder with me – write, write and write.
What are you grateful for?
List 20 or more things to be grateful for. If you can only find ten, I suggest you’re a miser on giving compliments to yourself and others. Consider what you gained from last year that you are grateful for?
You may have had unexpected things to be grateful for. Like my departure flight from Singapore mix up. We gained an exceptional additional day of fun and exploration.
The bonus about this Gratitude process is that it makes 2019 clearer and easier to accomplish.
- Having an attitude of gratitude by acknowledging what you have done, gives rise to something new.
- Having gratitude for something specific can prepare you for the next stage of what’s required.
- Having gratitude can remind you to thank yourself for the effort you made to achieve your goals and dreams.
Being proud of yourself helps boost your self-esteem and reduce the neediness of acknowledgements from others. Grateful topics can range from your health, relationships, new stress to success money mindset, improved relationship with your finances, profession, community efforts and even gardening.
In fact, my immediate gratitude is for my delayed plane. The sun has begun to set, and the view is stunning. The burnt red rays splay out into pinks and yellows blending into the baby blue light as it descends slowly into darkness. I find myself breathing contently. In this moment I am grateful for the spectacular sunset. The most important thing is to always enjoy the being grateful process.
Do you have regrets?
- What do you regret not doing?
- What do you regret doing?
- What was a waste of your time?
- Where do wish you had spent more of your time?
Regrets only remain regrets if we don’t learn from them. Remember our words speak and our actions teach, what do you regret saying, doing or not doing.
This is where my saying “make a pact to act” is critical to turning your life around. I am serious and sincere about this statement. You are the artist and your actions are the strokes of paint, on the canvas we call your life.
2019 Big Plans are the ideas and dreams that are dear to your heart.
Re-evaluate your dreams based on your gratitude and your regrets. As you evaluate your dreams notice how it gives rise to new dreams, this may alter the value of old dreams and perhaps make particular dreams no longer be relevant or as important.
- Don’t quit
- Don’t be afraid to change your small plans to achieve your big plans
- Recognise your dream delays are not dream denials- do not force outcomes, be patient and persistent. If your dream is true to your heart it will have its day!
Death will knock on all our doors in many different ways, have no regrets, be grateful and let those who have positively impacted you know how important they are to you. People will remember the impression you have left in their mind and on their heart.
Enjoy you New Year ahead and your 2019 Big Plans. Be grateful and live your life with no regrets!
The key points are:
1. Have a Gratitude Attitude and be grateful for all that you have.
2. Regrets are opportunities to correct and be true to your heart.
3. 2019 Big Plans – are for the important things.
Some extra things to think about!
We may not have talked directly about money success, but this conversation affects all of us and indirectly our money which I will go into further next blog.
Happiness come from wondering and pondering thoughts that turn into an action plan.
MAKE A PACT TO ACT – practice the art of having success and I assure you, your life will start heading in the right direction.
Zoe is the director of Zoe Slater Counselling and CEO Freedom Choice Academy. She studied at The Australian College of Applied Psychology, Sydney Campus and completed her Diploma of Counselling and Communication at the Brisbane Campus. Zoe is an Associate Member with the Queensland Counsellors Association Inc and a member with Australian Counsellors Association.